April 2021 marks the 20 year anniversary of Sexual Assault Awareness Month (SAAM). SAAM is a month dedicated to preventing and spreading awareness of sexual assault, harassment, and abuse. Let’s get straight to the point: sexual assault is an uncomfortable topic that needs to be talked about.
If you’re not disgusted by even the thought of sexual assault, let’s look at some statistics according to the Rape, Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN). Every 73 minutes, an American is sexually assaulted. Every nine minutes, one of those victims is a child. One out of six women has been a victim of a sexual crime. Sexual assault victims are in our school. There are people sitting in the same class as you who carry the heavy weight of being a victim on their hearts.
These victims, of all genders, are not only left with physical injuries but mental illnesses as well. Depression, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), eating disorders, substance abuse, and anxiety are all extremely common in victims of sexual crimes. Flashbacks, panic attacks, sensory overload, and anxiety attacks can also occur. Many victims also begin to blame themselves for what happened. They begin to make excuses for what happened out of doubt that they can provide a solid case. Under no circumstances is it ever the victim’s fault, whether they were intoxicated, sleeping, silent, or wearing certain clothing. The only person to blame is the abuser. If consent was not given, they did not have the right to do anything. If it is not an enthusiastic yes, it is assault. Begging someone to do something until they say yes is not an enthusiastic yes, and neither is silence.
If you have been sexually assaulted, this includes unwanted touching, groping, rape, or being forced to do sexual acts, please reach out. The Algona Police Department and Kossuth County Sheriff’s Office work together with you and do an incredible job of getting you the justice you deserve. If you are nervous about talking with the police, talk with someone you trust. If you want to speak to an advocate who is familiar to you, please reach out to me, Ruby Mitchell. You can text me at 515-341-1891, or find me in the halls to talk. As a victim myself, I can help you navigate through the negative thoughts and feelings and find you the help you deserve.
Sexual assault is never the victim’s fault, no matter the circumstance. The abuser needs to be held accountable, and there are so many people who will help and support you. Please reach out when you’re ready.